You're right Twitch.
The pilots are the main factor, we know that.
For me, pilots are living history. They are precious, not only as human beings, but also for what we can learn from them.
But war is a ghastly thing, even with all the aerobatics.
That's probably why people engage in statistics; it makes us become absorbed by the machines, and the idea of flying is what it's all about, not the idea of destroying the foe.
But you already know that.
We've all read the books, and they give us a chivalrous, romantic idea of aerial engagement.
Sims give us an opportunity to experience, in some unrealistic way, the emotion of flying against the enemy, without the nasty consequences it would have in real life.
I think it's a healthy, harmless obsession

. I don't think real pilots should be annoyed by it, or consider it to be underestimating them.
I have the deepest respect, and salute all pilots.
Best Regards